69. Unmasking the Maverick's Shadow Side
69. Unmasking the Maverick's Shadow Side
CARLA TOWNSEND - MONEY MINDSET & SUCCESS COACH FOR FEMALE ENTREPRENEURS
SEASON: 3
EPISODE: 69
In this episode of the Money Mindset Hub, Carla explores several shadow sides of the Maverick archetype, including;
Alienating oneself due to an excessive desire for independence.
She encourages you to assess where their independence may be causing friction in relationships and suggests embracing interdependence as a healthier alternative.
The tendency of Mavericks to make impulsive decisions, often chasing instant gratification.
Learning to balance spontaneity with calculated risk assessment to avoid negative consequences.
She offers a practical approach to dealing with challenging situations, suggesting the importance of conserving energy by choosing battles wisely.
The Maverick's potential to undervalue collaboration. She shares a personal story of how a collaboration led to a meaningful connection and emphasizes the importance of saying "yes" to opportunities when they align with intuition,
And so much more so be sure to tune in...
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Hello and welcome back to another episode of the Money Mindset Hub podcast. I'm your host Carla Townsend and I'm so excited to hear this is the second last one in this Unmasking the Shadow Sides of the Archetype series. And sorry, it's a little bit late. This is a little bit late. It fell right in school holidays and yeah, it was just a bit of a schmuzzle.
So anyway, it's fine. Here is your permission slip that Sometimes it's okay to have a week off, right? Sometimes it's okay if you're doing things consistently and you're just like, you know what? I'm not going to do it. The energy's not there. Too much going on socially, family wise, commitments that you don't want to half ass it,
I don't want to show up and do a podcast episode for you when The kids are running a muck in the back my energy is low. I'm not behind it because you can feel it, you can feel it, especially through a podcast episode. You can hear my voice, you can feel my energy and you could tell straight away if I'm just covering it up.
So that's not what I wanted to do. Anyway, before we dive in. I just wanted to highlight a couple of my beautiful clients because they have been doing such incredible things. One of them yesterday, I literally turned around and said to her, who even are you in the best way? She just laughed because her mindset.
Her vision of the possibilities and potentialities that are available to her and what she can do, be, have, create, the way that she can go about her life, the different ventures she's going on, are just literally a total 180. completely different. And she's even gobsmacked.
It's just wild, so for one, like she's got an incredibly successful career as it is. She, she started working with me. We did a money archetype reading together. And then she worked with me privately for a month before coming into the Money Matrix membership. So we started working together about four and a half, I would say four and a half, maybe five months max ago.
And... At that time, you know, she had this really successful career. She really just wanted to start a side hustle just for extra earning because she already earns great money. She loves her career, loves what she's doing, but you know, just wanted something extra because why not? Abundance is all around us and it's up to us how much we can create and receive.
So anyway, this is what we're working on and she took action. She took so much action, which was so amazing. But the biggest shift in her was. Unlocking her mind to the energetics of money, to the energetics of manifestation, which now she's binging so much to the point where she's going and studying N L P.
So neurolinguistic programming, which is something that I too am certified in, and even the possibility of potentially one day coaching people. Has now become a possibility for her. Whereas when we started together, that was a hundred percent. No, I just want a product based business that I can do set up.
It's a side hustle. Just makes extra cash, whatnot. But now she's gone full into the personal development and her transformation is phenomenal. I remember her saying when our month of private was coming to an end. I said to her, you know what? I'm, I'm starting this membership and I would love for you to come in.
there's the whole community. It's going to be monthly masterclasses, monthly Q and A's, guest experts, like you name it. It's going to be in there, and it is all about becoming the woman who can hold it all. Becoming the embodied CEO, blending money, mindset, the energetics of manifestation, and also CEO success strategies, because the whole point is to unblock your money mindset And monetize your genius online.
Anyway, initially she was like I'm not really a community person. And normally I would say no, but you've sold me. I am in, and now she's doing so amazing. She shows up on nearly every single call. She does the work and all of this is just total 180. And we just had a big laugh about it, but. This is the thing that I care about more.
📍 It's the intangible transformation that someone has that you cannot put a figure on. That changes everything for a person that changes the trajectory of your life. When you become the woman that you dreamed of, when you become the woman that you idolize, when you become the most confident version of yourself, the one that is backed with full self belief and self esteem and self worth so deep that nothing's going to get in her way of claiming that she, what she wants in this life.
That is so f*cking powerful that nothing equates to that. The impact that that could have on your life is just immeasurable.
So the intangible results of. Becoming so confident, so embodied, so clear, so determined, so disciplined. All of these incredible characteristics, that we desire to have that are really, they are really necessary in order to create and receive what we want in this life. When you get those things, when you master those things and you feel like you actually feel like, wow, I am her now, that's when everything changes and nothing is going to get in your way. And so seeing that like full 180 in her is just frigging amazing. It's amazing.
I'm so proud of her. But this is not the first time either. Like I've seen this time and time and time again and I, I love it. It sets my whole bloody soul on fire. Anyway, enough of that. But I had to point that out because I really wanted to celebrate her and just what she's done and where she's going because of the way she's expanded her mind in the last few months. She's incredible. Anyway, back to it. So this one is all about the maverick shadow side. First of all, quick recap, just in case this is the first one that you're listening to in this series, but the concept of a person's shadow was made popular by the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, who believed that the human psyche contains both conscious and unconscious elements.
So the shadow represents the parts of yourself that you either deny, repress, or reject because you deem them unlovable or undesirable. So somewhere along the way, you believe that if you acted that way, you responded that way, you said things in that way, That you wouldn't be lovable, or desirable, or they're just characteristics that you should keep hidden from the world.
Whereas this whole series is honestly about being able to just become your authentic self, right? And I know authenticity, authentic, that's thrown around a lot. But the way I see it is, we all know, like we know, you know when you don't feel like your full self. And I'm sure you can think of it right now.
There are certain people that when you're around them, you don't speak the way that you would normally speak. You can't be as open as what you normally would be. You are holding a part of yourself back. Now don't get me wrong, when it comes to business, we don't want to share everything in business. Like if you're building a personal brand, you don't want to share everything about your life and your personal brand.
Some do. That's great. But it also can get a little bit. confusing as to what you're there for and how you help people. So, and it's also okay to keep things private as well. It's okay to keep things private. You may or may not have noticed, but I have three children, but I don't say their names, for instance, on my social media.
I don't say their names. You won't often see them, maybe in a story here and there, but I like to keep them private. I'm here to talk about... Money, mindset, business, energetics. That's it. So okay.
Anyway, that was a big, long tangent. Let's dive into it. So the maverick of the maverick archetype is someone who values freedom and also independence. So recognizing and addressing these shadow sides of you is super, super important, especially if you want to be able to maintain balanced relationships that feel good and achieve that growth that you desire.
Because that's what the Mavericks here to do, you're a rebel with a cause. You are here to do things and in different ways. So one of the first shadow sides that can come up is alienating yourself. So this is when you isolate yourself from others due to that desire to be completely independent.
Now this can not only show up in business, but it also can sneakily show up in your relationship. So if you're in a relationship, you have a partner right now, where is this independence causing a bit of resistance? Resistance is the best word I can think of to describe it. So where is this bit of resistance coming up?
So there's a big difference to me when it comes to independence, being an independent woman. being codependent on somebody else, but then interdependence. So I like to look at interdependence like I'm married. Am I independent? Yeah, but I'm also married, so I wouldn't say I'm codependent, and I wouldn't say he's codependent, but we are dependent on each other.
Because we've created this life together. We do everything together. We make all the decisions together. Financially, everything's together. And that's just how we do things. But we're a united front. So the way we look at it is we're interdependent. But we are also both very independent people. So we're living our own independent lives.
And also together. But could we do life without each other? I don't want to think about that. Neither does he. So... But could we have push come to shove? Of course, but it's not necessarily what you choose. So just be aware of where is this actually repelling or causing resistance or friction in your relationships, whether that be in your private life, whether that also be in your business with your teams, with people that are trying to support you, where are you trying to be independent and do everything yourself, where in actual fact a leader knows how to lead.
and creating independent teams is far better and a far greater leader as someone who's just like, no, I just want to be independent and do it all myself. That will only get you so far. And in the beginning, especially if you're a solopreneur, then that is obviously what you need and you need to rely on that.
But it does get to a point where you realize you need to outsource and that's going to be the quickest way to grow. And you need to take a step back from that being independent and having to drive everything forward and allowing other people to come in, cultivate those connections with other people, recognize collaboration and different perspectives are fantastic for you in your business because they may also see things or think of things that you haven't thought of, which are amazing.
So the next one that, so the next one that comes with being a maverick is impulsivity. So. Making impulsive decisions. All right, making impulse impulsive decisions without actually thinking about them first, without thinking them through, without thinking of the potential consequences that it may have. So a maverick is someone who can really live life on the edge, right?
They love investing to the point that they may not have anything left in the bank. Like they can have their Their comfort range can be zero in the bank. That is something that I have noticed working with Mavericks. They can have nothing in the bank and they're like, It's sweet, it's fine, it's gonna come together because I know that the risk is worth the reward.
However, there's sometimes it's more impulsive than what it actually is. should be. So always come back to that longterm vision. You're a rebel with the cause, but your cause is that longterm gain. Don't look for that instant gratification in impulse decisions, which is what they can bring. So just be aware of that practice decision making and actually maybe give yourself a little bit more time than what you normally are.
assess what the risks might be. Like what's the worst thing that could happen? Okay. Am I prepared with that? Or can I mitigate that at all? Can I reduce that impact at all before I go do that? Is there a better time? Now it's a hard balance between making a decision and then like an intuitive decision.
And sometimes you need to make decisions without actually having the money there. Like sometimes you need to invest before you have the money because you know, the money's going to come. Like you just know, and I have had to do that before. I've known that the money's going to come, but guess what? It didn't tend to out.
But at the time I was like, Oh my God, this is so scary. But I felt the fear and did it anyway, but it was always very calculated. So calculate the risk before you make impulsive decisions. It will pay off for you in the longterm. All right. Another one that probably comes up. And if you're a fellow maverick, and I know many of my clients have maverick in them as well, or they are a maverick dominant, this resistance to authority.
Okay, so a maverick is someone who loves to lead. A maverick is someone who is very multi passionate. A maverick is someone who doesn't like to be told what to do, especially when they know, one, they're very independent people, and they know that they can do it in certain ways, and they are very talented with looking outside the box and seeing different ways to achieve a result quicker, better, more efficiently than somebody else.
Especially when it's, say, They're, if they've got a boss, maybe they're still working part-time alongside growing their business, so a maverick is someone that could deem themself as unemployable, unemployable, , because they're like, I hate having a boss . And I feel that because I'm an accumulator ruler Maverick, my ruler and Maverick are actually a tie.
So also f y i, if you did do the money archetype quiz on my website, if you haven't, go to money mindset hub.com/quiz. Now, the top three are the most influential in how you think, feel, behave with money. And if you get a tie on that same page, money mindset hub.com/quiz, scroll all the way to the bottom.
There are FAQs there. So if there is a tie in your top three, go and ask yourself that tiebreaker question and you will determine which one. comes first. Okay. So go and do that because I had to do that too. So my ruler and my maverick were a tie tie second, but I did the tiebreaker question and the ruler came in higher.
So my maverick is super, super strong though. And I'm aware of that. So this, when it comes to this resisting authority, mavericks Like I said, you can see things in different ways that often a lot of people cannot, they cannot see an outside of the box way of thinking or doing because it's just not the way it's always done.
And that's something that could really kind of piss you off. It's like, well, just because it's always done that way doesn't mean it should always be done that way. There is a better way. And here I have an idea, but people might knock you back. Right? So learn to discern between when it is necessary. to challenge that authority in a diplomatic way to, and when it is actually for the greater good to just respect the authority and move on.
When we, it doesn't even have to be authority. Do you know what resistance to authority? It doesn't even have to be a particular authority. It could just be resistance to someone in your life, even a peer or a colleague. or your partner. It literally could be anything, not necessarily an authority, but when you're resisting to accept the fact that, okay, you know what, do I have to pick my battle here?
Pick your battles. This is literally like parenting too. So parenting analogy, when your child is coming back at you, is this going to impact long term? No. Is it going to impact their behavior, their values, their morals, all of that longterm? Okay, no. So should I battle with them about this or should I just like, we should just move on.
We should just get over it. Move on. Pick your battles. It's the same thing when it comes to entrepreneurship. It's the same thing when it comes to work, whether you're still employed or not. Just pick your battles, discern whether or not it's a really a good use of your energy, that's the best way I can explain it.
Is it really a good use of your energy to battle this or is it something you've just got to swallow your pride and let it go because it doesn't really matter. It's not really going to affect your day. It's not really going to matter tomorrow in two weeks, five months, five years. Okay. I always ask myself that question.
Sometimes it's more challenging than others. All right. The next one is avoiding commitment. So with that strong desire for independence, sometimes it can result in not wanting to commit to things that are more longterm, like a longterm responsibility because it might actually feel that exciting.
You might work in shorter bursts, you have so much to do and you just want to get it done, do the thing and then move on because again, you're a multi passionate person. So long term can sometimes be daunting because it requires that dedication and that commitment and those responsibilities.
So sometimes you can avoid them. So ask yourself, when you have those moments, is this really going to make a difference? How can I make this the easiest way possible? How can I simplify the process? So that it actually becomes enjoyable, things that you do have to commit to and 📍 let's be real in business it's a long term commitment.
You're in it for the long game. You've got to have the staying power to succeed, sometimes you do get those unicorns and all of a sudden they're super successful overnight, but often that doesn't happen, you've got to have the staying power to be successful. So what does that look like for you?
And how can you as a maverick make that as enjoyable as possible? How can you potentially outsource the things that you really don't like doing? But when it's stuff that you have to do and only you can do, and you've discerned that, then how can you make it so enjoyable that you just get on with it and you make it easy?
There's always an easier way. That is my motto in life and business. There's always an easier way. Find your own strategy. Find your own method. of doing things, because trust me, you'll find a shortcut. Trust me, you will, because you're great at that and you're great at thinking out of the box. So I know you're going to find a way, just look inside, look at what you're doing and what's a better way to do this.
Don't look at everyone else because then it gets a bit confusing and cloudy, but what's a better way for you to do this? And is that long term commitment worth it? Is it worth it? So, the last one for the Maverick, is the lack of collaboration because they love to work individually, but they might actually undervalue the collaborations and the opportunities that that can provide for them going forward.
You're always planting the seeds for your future success. 📍 I literally had the most beautiful message today from a lady who binged my podcast now two times over. She listened to it last year cause she heard me as a guest on another podcast a year and a half ago. Anyway, things happened in her life. She slowed down with the business and then in the last couple of months she went and re binged my entire podcast and sent me the most beautiful, heartwarming message. Now, if I didn't collaborate, if I didn't say yes to going on that podcast, this beautiful woman would have never found me.
She would have never found me. She would have never listened to the podcast and it wouldn't have inspired her to take the action and relaunch her business and get out there and do it again, and I wouldn't have got that beautiful message, that message brought tears to my eyes.
It was so beautiful. It was The most magical feeling, words of affirmations is my love language. So when I get feedback or when I get a beautiful comment like that, like a beautiful DM, a comment, feedback from my clients, and they just, they say things like that genuinely from their heart, how I've helped them, that is like music to my soul.
So that like, that is what can happen for you when you collaborate. That was a year and a half ago. You never know what seeds you are planting. You've just gotta plant them. Say yes to the opportunities, the collaborations that come your way that feel good.
It's either a hell yes or it's a no. So don't, don't run with the, maybe here if you get an opportunity and you're like, nah, , your intuition is just like, don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. But if your intuition is like, do it, that feels really good, then go for it, please. Just go and do it. So that's my advice to you anyway, Mavericks.
I hope that helped you. I hope that gave you a few things to think about and a different perspective on. Ways to look at business and life even going forward, because remember how you are off the field. Your life off the field is directly impacting the way that you are on the field when you're in your business, when you're showing up, when you're creating, when you're trying to move the vision forward, all of that effects it.
So take note of that, take note of all these, go back and re listen if you need to, but You've got this because you're a rebel with a cause and you were born to be here and do something different and show us all a different way. So why not just lean into these shadow aspects and where they might be playing out for you.
Be aware of them. That's always the first stage of changing anything. And just watch everything unfold and everything is going to get so much easier for you. Anyway, I hope you loved this episode. If you haven't done the quiz, please go to moneymindsethub.com/quiz.
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