21. Overcoming your partner’s money blocks.
In this episode we talk all things:
Your vision, especially about money, will be outside the realm of a lot of peoples’ understanding and can stir up a lot of stuff within them, including your partner’s.
The technique I use to overcome the money blocks of the people I love.
The only persons’ whose opinion should matter because they are the only person you are competing against in life.
It is not your job to convince anyone else of your success.
My experience of my husband feeling like I was speaking another language.
The need to justify your thoughts, mission, and vision isn’t necessary and here is why.
They will come to understand in time when you are consistent and confident and continue to build the momentum.
Most people would only ask how things were going when I was getting promoted constantly in my job, but when I started a business it was as if it didn’t exist.
How clarity and confidence within yourself and your mission will bring people along for the party without the need to convince.
The reality of an overnight success.
How to deal with other peoples’ opinions and projections on you, your business and your dreams.
No two people are on the exact same journey or at the exact same point of comprehension when it comes to your money mindset, so accepting with grace and continuing to move forward will serve you time and time again.
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Welcome to the money mindset hub podcast. I'm your host, Carla Townsend, and money mindset and success coach on a mission to normalize feminine wealth through empowering the minds of fierce females in business, you're in the right place if you are a female who wants to become a vibrational match to attract more wealth, freedom and abundance, because the world needs more kind hearted women like you with deep pockets. So let's get started.
Hi, everybody, and welcome back. This week's episode is going to be all about your partner's money blocks, and how you can just overcome them and keep moving forward so that it doesn't sabotage you in your business. First things first, I definitely understand what is like when people don't understand. And maybe you could even you could expand this beyond your partner, maybe you could even think of it like your friends or your family. You know, they don't really understand they've got so many of their own blocks, and they keep projecting them on you. And it's making you second guess and you're getting better at them, you're feeling like frustrated with them, because they just don't get it and that is don't get your vision. So I just there's a few things that I want to talk about here. And, you know, I'll share my own sort of experience that what I've learned is it is not your job to convince anybody what you're doing and why you're doing it. The only person you have to convince is yourself. Tonight, I said to my daughter, you know, we have this thing called special time. So at the end of every day, we have like 1015 minutes, depending on the time where the kids get to choose what they want to do, like for a special time for as a family. So sometimes we'll pay sometimes we'll dance sometimes we'll play hide and seek whatever they want to do. We just do 15 minutes, up to 15 minutes and just undivided attention for them and what they want to do to finish the day. Anyway, tonight, my daughter said she wants to do breakdancing, right. And anyway, she's doing breakdancing and stuff. And I said, Oh, they're amazing, aren't they? And she's like, were amazing, too. And I said to her, I said honey, it's not a competition. I said you're not in competition with anybody else other than yourself. Because the only person that you're trying to compete against is yourself and be better than what you were yesterday. And I just wanted to explain that here because I thought, Oh my God, my audience really needs to hear that. Because you know, I just need to say that out there. Again, you know, the only person you're competing against is yourself. And you are only trying to be better than what you were yesterday. No one else, you don't need to explain yourself. You don't need to compare where you're at, you don't need to do any of those things just be better than you were yesterday and you're winning. Take those little steps and you are winning. I just want to drop that in there. I mean, it definitely resonates. But the thing was, like, like I was saying, you know, it's not your job to convince anybody that you'll be successful, your business will be successful, your business will make money. You know, you don't need to go and go and look, look at all the figures, you know, look what I want to do. And you know, you don't have to do that. Because it can be very, it can be very defeating, defeating. I don't know if that's the right word, but deflating. You know what I mean? Anyway, it is late while I'm recording, this is probably not ideal time for me, because I am like, it's 830 at night. And normally, I'm going to bed right now. But anyway, I just had to record this because I thought, you know,
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I've definitely been there before, you know, I've thought well, I'm so excited about this, and why don't you you know, like for to my friends, to my family to my, to my partner, like my husband, you know, I could tell sometimes, you know, when I say things, he's just especially at the beginning, when I would say things like my big vision, and you know, I'd go on the manifesting bandwagon, and I talk about money mindset and stuff, I didn't really understand what it was as such. You know, and so I felt like I had to try and explain it to him. And I was always trying to explain it and trying to justify why I was doing what I was doing. But you say it didn't get me anywhere. Because the thing was, it's it's not up to me to convince him he will understand his own time. And that is something that I just want to explain here. You know, it's great to open that channel of communication with your partner, or your family or friends. But let them understand in their own time, they will come don't feel defeated. If they don't even ask you how it's going. Right. They just don't understand. When that happens. And I know I've definitely been that too. I've thought oh god, you know, back when I was in back when I was in corporate everyone and asked me in about how things are going because I was getting promoted roughly every 18 months, and everyone would congratulate me. And then when I started my own business, there was only a select handful of my closest friends who would actually ask how's it going, you know how things how a business and you know what the same people now still asked me how How's it going? And then my biggest cheerleaders, I used to feel defeated when everyone didn't ask because like, why isn't everyone asking? And maybe that? I think at that stage, it was because I still had so many own self sabotaging limiting beliefs
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that will pop up. You know, I think I wasn't confident, like looking back, I wasn't that confident in my business, in my vision in my mission, you know, I wasn't clear, I didn't have complete clarity. So if I didn't have complete clarity and competence, and how are they supposed to? Like, right? It doesn't make sense. It's like, well, I'm trying to convince them something. But if I'm like, if my energy is not behind it, or my energies sounds like there's something that's a disconnect, well, how are they supposed to get on board? So you have to work on yourself and get that, that clarity and that competence, and yes, all of that takes practice, but it's just really following the journey, continue to stick to it. Everything will make sense, eventually, and you won't need anybody to be like, Oh, how's it going? Or ask you, you know, you'll just keep doing you, and carrying on and sharing what lights you up, and they will come on the journey that will eventually go up? This, you know, little business of yours, or little side hustle of yours is not so little, you know that that little dream you're talking about? Or that little business that you want to start, you know, wow, it's actually massive now Good on you. Sometimes. Actually, it's like, when you see people and you expect, like, wow, they're like an overnight success, right. But they're not an overnight success. You're just seeing the cherry on top, you're not seeing the 510 1520 plus years, that they've been chipping away, chipping away at those little one percenters, right? You only see it once they get to the top. And then you're like, Oh, my God, overnight success. Where'd you come from, you're amazing. Look at your business, you so successful. And then everyone wants to pace, right? Everyone wants to pace. It's not about that you being grounded in the fact that you can forgive and release and let go of any bitterness and resentment and feeling defeated when people don't understand. And especially when it's people close to home, like especially when it is your partner, right? All you can do is open up the channel of communication, so they understand where you're at. But you don't need to keep bringing it up. And you don't need to feel like they need to keep asking, you don't need to keep going around in this spiral. Right? It's again, it's not your job to convince anyone just like it's not your job to convince someone to buy from you. It's not your job, if they want to buy from you the buy from you. Okay? Same thing when it comes to your partner, your friends, your family. Another thing I want to talk about is just is their projections, their projections on you about your business or about your dream or like, oh, you know, isn't that a bit big, like, you know, your goals and things because it can be very confusing. When you do have big goals, and it's really outside the realm of everybody else in your circle, or I don't even just everybody else, you know, I made this in a general way. But sometimes when you're like, when you put out to the world, right, I'm going to be a millionaire. That's what I want to achieve, or a multimillionaire or whatever it is 678 figure business, whatever it is, when you set that out there, especially when it's related to money, it can feel icky, and it can bring up a lot of shit for a lot of people, the best way to look at it, when their shit comes up, and they projected onto you is to look at it from a place of love. They are only wanting the best for you. It is coming from their own fears and their own insecurities. And they aren't in the realm like you are they don't understand this whole new paradigm that you are in. They don't want you to fail. They don't want you to feel rejected, that I want you to feel defeated, and question yourself and question your business and question what you're doing and your purpose and, and all of that they don't want that. So remember that when it does come up, you can lovingly say, Oh, look, you know, I you know, I can understand your face, but it's okay. And just brush on. You know, you don't need to reframe the situation and be like, Oh, well look, you know, well, this is where it is. But you know what, if it turns into this, you don't need to even go down that because it can be an energy leak as well for you. It can drain your energy when you are trying to convince people you're trying to make sense of what they are never going to make sense of until it's when it's in the right time. Another example of this is when you're trying to give someone advice like you know, say what to say your partner, your friend, your family, whoever, say you're trying to give them advice on something that they're stuck on. Maybe they're in a relationship that they think they should get out of, and you give them advice, you know, they don't listen to it or whatever, and that's fine. Maybe it wasn't the right time for them. But the thing was, you'll give them the exact same piece of advice six or 12 months later, when their mindset has changed. They will hear what you have to say They will not hear what you have to say when their mindset is set on somewhere else, right, you have to be open to the opportunities to be able to actually understand it and go, Oh, that's what I'm going to do now, or I'm going to follow this, this intuitive nudge, or I'm going to take this action, or I'm going to take this path, because the thing is, it's like we have selective hearing, right? We have selective hearing, we will hear what we want to hear. But we need to be open to be able to hear that we need to be open to be able to hear that different way of thinking that different way of being that different way of embodying that different way of calibrating to whatever it is that you want in your life. When you're not in the mindset of that, when you're in the mindset of cause and effect. For instance, it's just you do this, this happens, you do that this happens, like when you're in that land of like, it really doesn't get much better than this, or you have all these money myths going on in your head, like the rich just get richer, and you know, I'm not lucky and money doesn't grow on trees, and all these things that that make you think that it's not possible for you, when you're still stuck in that realm. And you still think those thoughts and those, they are still your predominant beliefs, you're never going to see this other paradigm like this other reality of actually, that's all bullshit, because I know because I've gone through the journey. And I understand like reprogramming my subconscious mind, and I understand the neural pathways. And I understand energetics. And I understand all this. And I get to choose when someone's still in that initial place that you were in. So try and remember this, when you first started on this journey, whether it's personal development, whether it's on your mindset, whether it's your money, mindset, whatever, when you started, your mindset would have been extremely different to what it is now. Because I'm guessing you wouldn't be listening to this podcast, if you didn't think about manifestation and energetics and feminine energy and you know that there's just more to it, there's more to it than what you can see. Think back to your first self when you first started. Remember what it was like, you know, you had more of a closed mind, even though we say we're open minded, right? We're open minded to certain things that are in our realm. When it's out of our realm, we don't understand it, it's can be fearful, it can be scary, could be the unknown. It's not comfortable, right. So that's where most of your partners, your friends and your family, they all sit right now they still sit in that place that you were when you began, maybe they might have come along a little bit, but they're not fully going to understand, you know, you'll be talking in riddles to them. Again, their projections are only coming from a place of love so lovingly, say, you know, you know, I appreciate your concerns, thank you, but you know, it's okay. Just brush it off, humor them if you have to, I do this.
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I honestly, I do this all the time. I do with my mom quite often she knows I do. I told her that. So, you know, like, humor them, just you appreciate it, you know, it's coming from a place of love, but brush it off. Don't feel that energy of resentment and bitterness towards someone who literally just wants the best for you. But they just don't understand, right? They're not in your realm, your business will be a success, when you believe that it will be a success. And you act upon that belief that it will be, it will be it already is it already is who embody your higher self, what will be will be and it will always calibrate to that higher self as long as you believe that it will do the work. And again, don't feel defeated, if they're not asking how it's going. Because it's just yeah, you know, when they don't understand something it's going it's not going to make sense. So why would you want them to ask how it's going? Because you just gotta be like, Yeah, good. And then that's gonna be them to conversation. And then you'll be like, oh, cool, like no one asked again. So. So don't worry, I've been through my fair share of that, you know, a lot of the time people don't ask, like I said, there's a handful of people that do and that's great. But eventually they will. Eventually they will, you know, when they see what actually becomes of it. They'll be like, What the hell, and it'll be that cherry on top right? It'll be that overnight success. Because you can be an overnight success to quote on the overnight because really, as we all know, it takes years, years and years and years to get to the level of success that you want. And then a level of success is subjective to the person's success to me and success to you mean something completely different. And the goalposts will always change. Anyway, I'm going to wrap that up there. That's kind of what you can do when you have other people's money blocks, especially your partner because of the closest to you. So they're often going to be the one that you really want on your side. You really want to understand, maybe even from from a financial perspective, it's in both your best interest to understand, but they will come along they will come along in a way you can become their pattern interrupt up. I know, you know for making it this is something that even on our whole development journey of becoming better people are being each other's pattern interrupt us when we had, you know, low energy, or we fell into negativity, or we were saying things that just, it just wasn't how we wanted to be right. It wasn't how we wanted to show up in the world, we interrupt each other and say, like, hey, like, you know, this is how you being, you can also be like that for your partner. You know, everyone is different. Everyone's relationship is different. But you really do need to open up that channel of communication. And there are so many different things that you can do. But anyway, there's a start, there's a couple for you. And yes, as always, I would love to know what you thought of this episode. Did that help? Did that help at all? You know, has it got you thinking about some of the relationships in your life, maybe your partner specifically, maybe friends, maybe family, and you've thought maybe a different way to approach it, or even a way to just let go when, you know, they're not asking or they don't understand or they're projecting? Because yeah, we've all been there. Anyway, I'll leave you with that. And I'll catch you in the next episode. Bye. Thanks for listening to this week's episode. I hope you enjoyed it and if so, please subscribe to the podcast and join our mailing list at money mindset hub.com. Until next time, remember, everything you desire and deserve is just on the other side of your own resistance. So take that next step.